Gen 1:26-28; 2:15-25
Introduction
1. Men and Women Were Created Equal as God’s Image-Bearers
Because we, in this country, are sons and daughters of liberty – and we have experienced the freedoms built into our country’s Constitution our entire lives, we can often forget that most of the rest of the world, has never dreamed of having many of our freedoms we regularly enjoy.
Similarly, when it comes to the Bible, we sometimes forget how high of a value it places on human life and the equality of men and women. Many of the ancient cultures did not have a high view of womanhood. In fact, Jesus was very counter-cultural in his approach to women. But what he presented was nothing new – it was simply an a life built on a right understanding of Genesis.
Consider how the major cultures of Jesus days regarded women. Traditional Jewish law had a warped God intention for marriage; a woman was thing, the possession of her husband. She had no legal rights. A husband could divorce his wife for just about anything, while apart from leprosy, gross immorality, or apostasy, the wife could not divorce her husband.
In Greek society, a respectable woman lived a life of seclusion; she lived in the women’s apartments and did not even join her husband for meals. Complete servitude and chastity were demanded of her, but her husband could go out as much as he chose, and enter as many relationships outside marriage, without anyone thinking less of him. One famous Greek orator named Demosthenes said, “We have courtesans for the sake of pleasure, we have concubines for the sake of daily cohabitation, and we have wives for the purpose of having children legitimately and being faithful guardians for our household affairs.”
Finally, there was the Roman’s view of marriage. This was a disaster. One pastor explains it this way: “one Roman woman . . . married her twenty-third husband – and she was the man’s twenty-first wife! There was a strong feminist agenda. Women did not want to have children because they thought it spoiled their appearance. Some of them wanted to do everything men did, so they developed women wrestlers and women sword throwers. The poet and satirist Juvenal records how women began lording it over their husbands, and then before long would vacate the home and flit from one marriage to another ‘wearing out their bridal veil.’”
In contrast to all of this worldview chaos, comes the foundation of Jesus’ view of wives – “[26] Then God said, ‘Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.’ [27] So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. [28] And God blessed them. And God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.’”
Humanity is set apart from the rest of creation because humanity is made in the image of God.
God says he made humanity in His ‘image’ and after His ‘likeness’ (1:26). Both of these phrases work together to describe the human race. These are not two separate aspects of man, but one described in two ways. The original word for ‘image’ means ‘to cut or to carve out.’ The idea is that you would cut or carve out and image of something from stone or wood. The original word for ‘likeness’ comes from the verb ‘to be like.’
Thus, to be God’s image-bearers means that we both represent God (image) and are somehow like God (likeness). At the very least this means that we are spiritual beings exhibiting traits like rationality, creativity, the ability to relate to one another, and so on. And best it means that “the image of God in man is the soul’s personal reflection of God’s righteous character. To image God is to mirror His holiness.”
Notice that both the man and the woman are both made in the image of God. He doesn’t the man in his image and then woman not in his image. There is an essential equality in the worth and value and dignity of all humanity – male and female. It is important to understand as the foundation for the rest of our message. Without this truth, the second reality we see form the text can be twisted and abused.
2. Men and Women Were Created to Fulfill Different Roles
[2:15] The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and keep it. [16] And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, “You may surely eat of every tree of the garden, [17] but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it you shall surely die.” [18] Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” [19] So out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name. [20] The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. [21] So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. [22] And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. [23] Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”
Notice that God doesn’t create the woman right away. He creates the world, fills it with animals, birds, fish, and then creates the first man. God knows that man needs a counterpart, but he also knows that man needs to know he needs a counterpart. So, he parades every other species of animal in front of Adam, and charges him with the task of naming them. After he’s done, he realizes that there is no one like himself. With that knowledge firmly rooted in Adam’s mind, God administers divine anesthesia, and performs surgery on Adam, taking from him one of his robs and the tissue around it, using it to form what he says will be a “helper fit for him” (2:18).
This is where the train often derails in modern thinking. No one in mainstream Christianity denies the inherent equality of all people. But there is sometimes the assumption that equality in one area necessitates equality in all areas. That is to say, some Christians say since men and women are both God’s image-bearers, since they both are in equal in quality and worth, then surely it stands to reason that they are equal in every way. That ultimately, apart from biology, there is no distinction, no difference, in what men and women can or should do in marriage and the church.
But then you look at our passage which shows God saying, “I will make [the man] him a helper fit for him,’ clearly there is a difference here. But it is not one that many welcome with open arms. Not many like to think of themselves as a ‘helper.’ Barbara Hughes is right when she observes, “It’s a cultural norm for us to associate weakness and even inferiority with the one who assists. No one wants to play second fiddle.”
For the Christian, however, this is an odd response. because God himself is often called a ‘helper’ in the Scriptures. In fact, of the 19 times the word used, 16 of those times the word describes the Lord. We should conclude from that, that there is no disgrace, no indignity in having the role of helper. Furthermore, as God himself says, this is to be the role of the wife to the husband. So what kind of helper is the wife to be to her husband?
A. Biblical understanding of wives as helpers
From the rest of the Scriptures, we see this means at least two thing:
1. Help by support
Like God the father, so also the Holy Spirit is called a helper. In John 14, Jesus promised his disciples that another helper would come to them. As we look throughout the pages of the NT, we see that Helper – the Holy Spirit – described as one who is repeatedly… encouraging, comforting, and coming alongside. In all these things, the Holy Spirit supports God’s people in this life. Wives, you must do the same with your husbands.
One wife who understood this was Idellete Calvin, wife of the famous theologian and pastor, John Calvin. John once described her as “the faithful helper of my ministry,” and “the best companion of my life.” After only nine years of marriage, Idelette became sick, probably with tuberculosis, and died at age forty. John wrote to his friend Viret: “You know how tender, or rather, soft my heart is. If I did not have strong self-control, I would not have been able to stand it this long. My grief is very heavy. My best life’s companion is taken away from me. Whenever I faced serious difficulties, she was ever ready to share with me, not only banishment and poverty, but even death itself.” So incredible was Idelette’s impact on John’s life that while he was only forty years old when she died, John never remarried.
Wives, are you a supportive helper to you husband? Do you support him in the home and in ministry? How often and how hard do you criticize him? How often do you undermine his decisions for himself and the family? How often do you encourage your husband in his endeavors? Do you offer comfort for times of defeat; praise for times of victory? Or are you a dripping faucet of nagging remarks?
Recent tough decision regarding spiritual matter; clearly needed to do something, though I didn’t really want to. Made the decision to do it despite the difficulty Melinda knew about this struggle I had and one night put her arms around me, and simply said, “I’m proud of you.” The power of that encouragement was priceless. Wives, seek to lift up your husband, not tear him down. Be God’s ordained helper in his life by supporting him.
2. Help through submission
Today, this is about the biggest minefield a pastor can step into. Therefore, I want there to be sure that there is no misunderstanding here. For part of the reason this is such a hot issue, is because of the wrong-thinking related to the Bible’s teaching on submission. In fact, many today make the argument that, since the issue is so abused and misunderstood, we should essentially abandon it altogether. My reply to that is simply, ‘Do you really want to remove part of the teaching of God’s word simply because it has been abused, misunderstood, and cuts across our current cultural sensitivities?’ If we really followed that logic, there would be nothing left of the Christian faith. We’d all be Unitarians.
So what does the Bible say about submission? We see its importance because it’s at the core of a wife’s relationship to her husband. In Eph 5, Paul specifically says, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.” At it’s simplest level, submission is an acknowledgement that there is a leader and that you are called to follow after that leader. John Piper says that, for wives this means, “[submission is] the divine calling to honor and affirm her husband’s leadership and help carry it through according to her gifts.”
How is this helpful to husbands? Remember we are making the point that wives are to be a helper to their husbands, Specifically here through submission. So, how is submitting to his leadership helpful to him? Have you been next to someone when they lean on you with their full body weight? I can remember one time when I was a counselor with our youth group during summer camp. On the way down to the camp, our tour-bus had problems and we were stopped by the side of the road, baking in the summer heat with no air conditioning. I was told by the youth minister that one of the girls was feeling nauseous, and that I should tell her to step off the bus for some fresher air. In the process, she passed out and fell against me. I remember doing what everyone does in such situations, I compensated by exerting counter-pressure to hold her up.
In a very similar way, when wives willingly and joyfully submit to their husbands, They are exerting counter-pressure on them. They are putting godly pressure on them to realize the full weight of their responsibility under God to provide godly leadership. Wives, when you submit to your husbands, you help him become a better husband, and the kind of man that God would have him be.
That is submission at its most basic. In seeing how this is worked practically, however, I want to show what submission does not mean for wives –
B. Wrong ideas about wives as helpers
While there are more, I have picked four of the most common misunderstandings (with the help of pastor Ligon Duncan).
1. Being a helper is not seeing the husband is an absolute authority.
“wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord” does not mean submit to the husband as if he were the Lord. No, it means submit to him as an act of obedience to the Lord. Here I am simply meaning that wives should not feel compelled to give in to all of their husbands’ demands. Specifically, wives should not and must not commit sin because their husbands ask them to. That may seem obvious, but let me give you an example.
When we were first married, I used to ask Melinda to lie for me all the time. The phone would ring and I would tell her, “if it’s for me, I’m not home.” One day, she said, flat out – “I’m not going to lie for you.” Whether it is small or large, wives should not follow their husbands into sin.
2. Being a helper does not mean giving up independent thought.
It’s interesting that no where in the New Testament does any of the apostle write to the men and say, ‘go home and tell your wives to submit.’ Ladies, God thinks so much of you, that as he is inspiring the writers of the New Testament, he moves them to write directly to you. He expects you to be able to think for yourselves, to understand what he’s saying. He treats you like disciples. He’s not saying that you’ve got to shut your mind off and let your husband think for you. He goes directly to the wives and says, “Now here’s how I want you to relate to your husbands.” He is expecting independent thinking from these women.
this stands in contrast to the world’s view of submission; a few years ago, a book called, The Surrendered Wife. In an interview promoting the book, the author explained that to improve her marriage, she stopped nagging, complaining, and criticizing. She gave her husband every responsibility for their marriage (including the finances); she gave him sex whenever he wanted it; she always let him chose the restaurants, and make every other decision. This is surrendering, but wives aren’t called to that – they are called to submit.
3. Being a helper does not mean that a wife should give up her efforts to influence and guide her husband.
Submission does not mean not having input in the decisions your husband makes, Or helping him grow as a father, husband, or Christian. By all means, tell him how you feel about decisions;
But be willing to submit to his leadership, even if he chooses differently than you would have.
4. Being a helper is not based on a woman having less intelligence or competence.
You know the old joke about Ginger Rogers right? That she could do everything that Fred Astair could, except she did it backwards and on heels? Well that’s kind of like it is in the home.
Remember 1 Peter 3 – “wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives.” Peter assumes that by the very fact that this woman is a Christian, that she has greater spiritual insight than her husband does! She’s seen the truth of Christianity and the Lord Jesus Christ, and he hasn’t.
Conclusion
Matthew Henry said, “[the woman] is not made out of [man’s] head to top him, not out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, near his heart to be loved.”
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